Hey folks! If I haven't said it
before, breastfeeding is hard! At least a lot harder than media and
marketing seems to portray it. It may be natural, but that doesn't
mean it's easy!
This is one of the many things I wish
I had known with my first baby. On top of trying to deal with having
what I still feel was an avoidable c-section, I felt like an extra
failure when I wasn't able to breastfeed my first daughter. While my
husband and mom were supportive, that was about the extent of it. The
lactation consultant at the hospital was an appalling joke. I don't
recall the pediatrician's office talking about lactation consultants
either. Basically, I didn't know what the hell I was doing and there
didn't seem to be anyone else around who did either. (We also lived
in a different state than my family and friends at the time, so there
was no help from that front either.) I couldn't even get her to
latch!
While I was able to nurse my second
daughter, we had a slew of issues with her tongue and lip ties.
Though I had them corrected, I was still only able to nurse her about
5 ½ months. My supply just seemed to keep dwindling/not keeping up
with her and my poor nipples were still so sore all the time that I
wanted to scream whenever she nursed and dreaded it. :(
So far, knock on wood, baby #3 and I
have been having a much better nursing relationship than I did with
my first two. She definitely has a lip tie, which makes for sore
nipples, but it's nothing in comparison. I have no desire to get it
fixed and go through the hassle of lots of LC and physical therapy
appointments this time.
With that being said, I'm no expert on
breastfeeding, but I would like to think by this point I have a lot
more wisdom and tips to impart to others who may be struggling. This
is just a short list of my personal favorites as you can find tons of
suggestions for just about anything breastfeeding related online. I
hope you find something useful here!
*Use a burp rag in place of nursing
pads.
I don't know about you, but I have one
boob that's extra leaky. I usually just nurse on that side first, but
if I don't for whatever reason, instead of blowing through a bunch of
nursing pads, I just shove a burp rag under my boob if I'm at home.
Ever better, invest in a Milkies Milksaver so you're not wasting any
liquid gold! You can learn more about it in my review.
*Invest in a quality breast pump!
Seriously, do yourself a favor and get
a good pump, even if you plan on exclusively breastfeeding. If you
live in the U.S., take advantage of the programs many insurance
companies offer now to receive a free (high quality too) breast pump!
It is totally worth having on hand, whether you plan on pumping when
you go back to work or just a night out occasionally, need to boost
your supply, or just want to bottle feed pumped milk etc. Whether you
buy one yourself or get a free one, don't get a cheap one price-wise.
Pumps are one of those things that I have found that you definitely
get what you pay for!
*Get properly sized flanges for your
breast pump.
I'm not sure about all brands, but I
know at least Medela sells flanges in different sizes. Why? If you
have ones that don't fit properly, especially ones that are to small
and pinch your nipples, it can cause you to not be able to express as
much milk as you should be and can even affect your supply in a
negative way!
*Pump after nursing.
There are a few reasons for this. 1) To
increase your supply if you're having issues. The more you nurse, the
more milk you will make. (In theory) Also, you want to make sure your
breasts are completely empty as this is also conducive to making
enough milk. If they don't get empty after nursing/pumping, that
tells your body, “Hey! You're making too much!”, which won't do
your supply any favors.
2) The main reasons (besides trying to
keep my supply up) I do this a couple times a day is to help deal
with cluster feeding and give my nipples a break. I know it's
perfectly normal, but cluster feeding literally makes me feel crazy!
My nipples are already sore and I can't stand sitting around so much.
So it's nice to have some extra milk waiting in the fridge for these
occasions. Plus, as I mentioned, it give my nipples a bit of a break.
Extra bonus: Daddy can do it, so extra break!
*Eat certain foods to help increase
your supply.
By now you are probably aware that
certain foods are said to help increase your supply, such as oats,
hummus, flaxseed, etc. Each person is different, but I can attest to
oatmeal helping!
*Be cautious of fenugreek.
I know what you're thinking: I thought
fenugreek is supposed to increase milk production? For some...yes.
More and more information has been coming out in the past several
years that indicates that fenugreek may only help about half of women
who use it, but actually negatively impact the supply of others! If
you're already having supply issues, it's not really a gamble you
want to take. I hear blessed thistle is the new fenugreek in the
breastfeeding world.
*Drink plenty of water.
Getting plenty of fluids is just a good
habit to get into regardless of whether you're nursing or not. While
there are lots of factors that go into how much breast milk you make,
it's going to be a lot harder if you are dehydrated. I recently read,
as a general rule of thumb, that a nursing woman should drink about
96 oz of water a day. It seems like a lot, but if you consciously
make an effort to get into the habit, it's not so bad. I know many
women like to keep water on hand while they are nursing so they don't
forget!
What would be your #1
breastfeeding tip for a new mom?
Wow, I'm super impressed with how determined you are to keep trying to breastfeed! Sounds like you've had quite the challenges. Both of my babies took to feeding very quickly - the biggest issue I had was with Pip being too sleepy as a newborn.
ReplyDeleteMy biggest tip is to get your baby on a proper routine for him/her off the hop. This will help to eliminate those extended "cluster feeds" and get your baby sleeping through the night faster. Your body will also know how much milk to provide at what time, because you're going to be feeding at predetermined intervals.
Also, if it's not going well and just stressing you out, QUIT. Don't let others talk you out of formula feeding just because they're guilting you. you're doing what is best for you and your baby and that's what matters.
#thisishowweroll
xo
Ps. I just finished up an entire series on Sleep Training (gentle baby whisperer way) over at hampersandhiccups.com - if anyone is interested.
Hi,
ReplyDeleterespect that you keep on breast feeding although it is really hard sometimes! I admire you especially for pumping after just having fed your baby. I really was into the whole breast feeding game and my surroundings tried to support me. Anyways it also stressed me out! As Katelynn was already writing sometimes there is a lot of pressure from other people. I think you really want to breast feed what is great, but I also really wanted to do so but it was just to much pressure for me. I was at a low point in my motherhood when I finally decided on using formula in addition. Using the Holle organic formula in addition changed a lot for myself. I could finally have my mind free for enjoying motherhood and get lost of the pressure. I found a community where mothers were open minded on not that determined on exclusively breast feeding - what was a big help for me!
Making sure you have the right sized flanges, pumping after nursing and drinking tons of water were my 3 tips I lived by!
ReplyDeleteHope this helps some nursing mamas out there!
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