I've admitted it once and I'll admit
it again: I have done things a lot differently with baby #2 than I
did with baby #1. (Don't we all, though?) While I think most people
do this without meaning to, I feel like I've consciously chosen to do
things differently. Not necessarily because I thought we did things
wrong with Myka, but because we both have a strong inkling that this
is likely our last kid. (The very likely possibility of us having
three girls if we had another baby scares the crap out of John and
me. Can you imagine the teen years? * shudders *)
It will be interesting to see how
different our two daughters turn out. “Neediness-wise” they're
quite the opposites already. We had already planned on raising Myka
to be independent (not sure that's the right word I want to use, but
it's been a long day and I'm tired), so it was kind of a happy
coincidence that she seemed to be heading that way from the time she
was a very young baby. She didn't really like to snuggle and always
wanted to be facing out whenever held so that she could see what was
going on.
Ripley, on the other hand, very much
likes to snuggle, which I like because, like I said, she's probably
our last and I want to savor the baby times. (Both of our kids have
been good sleepers from early on, so I actually enjoy the baby stage.
;) ) I had planned on trying the whole babywearing thing out this
time anyways out of functionality, if nothing else, because I figured
it would help out a lot with having two kids. So, I let my husband
talk me into buying a baby wrap and giving it a try before I even had
her. (At this point, I'm assuming you realize that I did not do the
whole babywearing thing with Myka.)
So she gets here and I want to like
babywearing, I really do...but nursing turned out to be less than
perfect (hello, lip and tongue tie problems) and the whole having to
nurse her what felt like constantly thing didn't make for good
babywearing conditions. I tried it in the wrap, but she doesn't like
to be covered up. (Can you blame her?) Needless to say, it was a
giant pain to have to completely take the wrap off every time she
wanted to eat.
I still submit that wraps are a good, inexpensive babywearing option for the newborn stage.
Besides quickly learning that
breastfeeding and baby wraps were not friends (for us, at least), I
also found that I didn't really like the wraps. (I liked them alright
at the time I reviewed the Wrapy, just for the record.) It was
uncomfortable for both of us. She started sagging quicker than I
expected. (Read: After not having it on long.) There were hardly ever
times where she was content in it. She usually squirmed and acted
like she didn't like it. Oh. And on top of all that, we both get
SUPER hot with it. It's not as if it's hot out yet and I can strip
her down to just a diaper or short-sleeved onesie and she'll still be
sweaty.
But, I still really wanted babywearing
to work out for us. One of the coordinators of the moms group I'm in
saw my post on the local babywearing Facebook group and is now
generously letting me borrow a mei tai carrier her family no longer
uses. How awesome is that?! I really didn't know much about them or
had any desire to learn more about them until she offered to let me
borrow it, but it's not as complicated as I thought. After all, if I
could figure out how to tie that godforsaken wrap, I could figure out
what is basically a buckle-less soft structured carrier, right?
Right!
We just got it this afternoon and
we're both already liking it a lot better. At least I think Ripley
was. It may have been the baby Tylenol talking, but I don't think so.
With that being said, we got it at an especially good time since she
caught her sister's cold. :( (Nothing is more pitiful than a sick
baby, amiright?)
Anyways, she fell asleep in in right
away, which never happens with the wrap. She even fell right back
asleep when I put her in the car seat and again when I put her back
in the carrier when we had another errand to run! She did fight the
sleepies while we were checking out my in-law's new house this
evening, but she did eventually fall asleep for about an hour...and
probably would have slept longer if I hadn't been messing with things
on the carrier, trying to work on the fit. Lol
I'm glad I will finally have something
that works for both of us, at least until she gets too heavy to
comfortably use it. Nursing will be a lot easier and it's much more
airy than the wrap...and easier to tie. ;) I'm still trying to
supress the urge to buy a regular soft structured carrier because in
all honesty, I really don't need
one. The mom who's letting me borrow the mei tai said I can borrow it
for as long as I need or want, plus I already have a framed hiking
carrier I used with Myka. (Click on the picture below to be taken to the review for that, the Kelty Tour 1.0)
I freaking love this thing!
While it takes up a lot more space in the
car than a ssc and I know I will feel silly at first in front of all
the other babywearing mamas around here with their Tulas and
Ergobabies, I just need to get over it. If anything, they should be
jealous of me because I'll be able to sit baby down (hello! Built-in
seat!) and have storage space built in. Plus, it cost just as much,
if not more, than most of their soft structured carriers, so I need
to just stop trying to “keep up with the Jones'” and feeling like
Poor Patsy. (For the record, I have nothing against Tulas, Ergobaby
carriers, or any other ssc brand. It just seems like certain ones are
a status symbol in the babywearing community around here. Also, if you're wondering why I don't just use it now, she's not big enough. She needs to be able to hold herself up a little better, like around 6 months old.)
Who
knew babywearing could be so complex, right? ha ha Do you like babywearing?
Did you plan on it with your kids, or was it just kind of a necessity
that you ended up enjoying?
I have never babywore (is that a word? lol) but it looks extremely uncomfortable for both the baby and the mother. At least the front ones do. I know mom's who swear by them and those that hate them so I think it's just to each their own. I'm very glad to hear you found something that works for you and your baby though! I will have to check back on this when I have a newborn at some point again. Thanks for sharing your insight and for joining us for some #mommatime!
ReplyDeletelol Well, to be honest, this carrier I'm borrowing is a lot better than the wrap, but it's still not perfect. Having her on the front is just...awkward, too. I'll be glad when she's old enough to go on the back!
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