Hey folks! We have had mixed reactions
about us not wanting to find out the gender of this baby until it's
born...Many of which are (impatient) family and friends who think
we're crazy for wanting to wait! So I figured why not discuss this in
a post!
To be totally honest, our initial
reason for not wanting to find out was because we are both scared to
death we will wind up with three girls. The thought of teenage years
and puberty is frightening. My husband and I hate drama. It's already
going to be rough with two girls, I'm sure.
Not that this baby was an “accident”
and not that we didn't realize there is the very real possibility of
having another girl, but I would be lying if I said we both weren't
really hoping for a boy. I think I have (mostly) finally come to
terms with the possibility of having three girls, but one of my
biggest worries still is disappointment. That is another big reason
we don't want to find out. I don't want to be one of those extremists
who really wanted one gender or the other and are so upset
that it's not that they don't even care about having the baby
any more. I don't think I could ever be that upset, but I
still don't want to feel disappointed ahead of time and possibly
resent the baby for a short time while I “get over it”. I would
feel bad.
A lot of people don't understand/agree
with my theory on waiting to avoid the disappointment. “Wouldn't
you rather know ahead of time so you can get over the initial
disappointment?” No, and I'll tell you why. My theory, simply, is
that after labor and finally getting the baby out, I won't care
what gender it is. I'll just be happy it's over with and the baby is
here safe and healthy, regardless of gender.
Finally, this is DEFINITELY our last
baby...Why not make it a surprise?! I never thought I would be one of
those people who would want to or be able to wait until birth to find
out the gender, but here I am. We found out the gender and announced
her name ahead of time with our first. We only revealed the gender
with our second. Why not leave everything a surprise for this one?
Besides being the ultimate surprise for us, I get a sick sense of
pleasure from tormenting my family and not letting them know. :D It's
very entertaining!
Did you find out what
gender you were having before birth or did you wait? I'd love to hear
your reasons for either below! :)
I have four kids: three are girls. Honestly, the teen years have been pretty drama-free. One of our girls is more moody and tends towards the occasional dramatic outburst, but that's a personality thing.
ReplyDeleteWe knew for our first two kids, but not the last two. I found it wasn't a big deal to know, once we'd had one of each. But whatever the reason, I think it's nobody else's business. If you want to wait, that's all that matters.
Thank you! Exactly! People get so worked up over things they have no business in. ;)
DeleteI found out each time. But we kept my second daughter a secret and my Nan got really angry with me. I kind of wanted to keep number 3 a surprise but my husband was desperate to find out. So we did (and had a boy). Good on you for keeping it a surprise. Sarah #FabFridayPost
ReplyDeleteI'm always so surprised by how many husbands/significant others want to find out the gender more than the moms!
DeleteI found out with both of ours. I just couldn't. I wanted one of each but never thought that Evelyn was going to be a girl. But if I had another - not that I would, I would definitely wait too. Like you, she/he will be our last and I want it to be a surprise for us - for everyone. I like surprises. :) Thanks for linking up with us on #FabFridayPost Exciting times! xx
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